As much as I claim that I’m not impressed by celebrities, you might be starting to think that I’m too easily distracted by headlines in the check-out lanes.
For the record, I’m not. But if I were… the Star would be my favorite.
But Drew and Jonathan Scott are a different brand of celebrity. They’ve managed to keep that we’re real humans appeal. You know you like them. Just admit it so we can get on with the post.
What is it? Why do you watch their show? You know you do!
It’s more than one thing, but I think it’s a lot about how they can have a close relationship (they’re identical twins), work together mostly away from home, and get along and get projects done.
So, it wasn’t in the check-out lane that I came across an interview with them, but rather in Entrepreneur magazine, not one of those Hollywood rags.
That makes it okay with you,right?
Don’t let the “B-word” (no…”business“) send you away, this post is about people. Only one of them wears a business costume and it’s kind of edgy for regular business. Still with me? Let’s go…
Business is personal. It’s personal because it involves people. And if you’ve got a thriving business, it involves people who care. Then, stir in equal portions of a sibling, a spouse, or a close friend and the batter thickens.
It’s not personal, it’s business.”
—Old, worn-out adage
In the interview, the Brothers shared some solid insight into mutual respect and learning to let go.
Drew and Jonathan definitely have an untucked thing going on between them.
Their no-B.S. policy. It’s more than a transparency thing, it goes further than that. The question is, “How do you give feedback that’s constructive and respectful?” when it involves someone close to you. It’s a “just get it out” strategy. Try to keep emotions out of it. That’s before pent-up frustration enters in to the equation.
Never be aggressive with communication. This was an interesting nugget. As identical twins, they have their own language that can be very direct. If used with anyone else, Drew says it can come across as aggressive.
Have you experienced anything like this? Most of us will never understand the twin connection, but it’s common for long-term close friends to develop a higher level of communication.
I remember my best friend wayyyyy back in high school. After being buds for years, our critiques of each other could be harsh and direct. But, other than a few close-to-blows moments, most were NBD (no-big-deal). Then off to college, I quickly found I had to radically adjust my word-choice when getting to know new friends if I was going to survive.
Respect. Their observation of respect took me a bit by surprise but also challenged me to think. Jonathan said,
The more intimately you know someone, the more you can lose respect for their role.”
—Jonathan Scott
Wow, chew on that one for a minute.
Is it easier to dismiss an idea simply because you’ve become closer? Do we let ourselves second-guess each other more often than we should, more often than we might in a more professional relationship?
Certain safeguards are removed from close relationships that otherwise would serve to protect the parties. That’s something to look out for.
Keep each other up to date. People tend to become so comfortable with their own routines and whatever they’re doing, they forget to keep those close to them up to speed. It’s an inverse equation… the closer you are, the less you feel the need for updates.
Besides, the collaboration might actually help you out!
“Okay, let’s do that at the end of the day after the dust has settled.”
You’ve got at least one, maybe ten problems with that strategy.
- You’ve already shut down
- Your creative juices are spent
- Will power is gone for the day
- You’re not able to focus
- The mind starts to wander
- “What did you just say?“
- Right. You’re getting the idea now.
And, when the end of the day arrives, it’s time to focus on other things…
… time for more untucked moments with family, friends, four-legged furry ones, and whatever helps you relax, let go, and call it another day well lived.
Not bad, for what I’m told, are a couple of hot guys in tight jeans renovating homes on TV.
p.s. Thanks to the Brothers for inspiring this post!
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